What a Bummer!
When I’m asked what I’m into and what turns me on I have a tendency to lapse into a list of what I don’t like, what turns me off, what I don’t want to explore. It’s a much shorter list, but I tend to view it as a list of non-negotiables. No matter which site I’m currently using to get my jollies, a guy whose profile says he wants to push boundaries will always be a no from me – my boundaries are there for a reason and I’ve no desire to have them pushed. Outside of that list are the negotiables: things that don’t turn me on or that I’m not keen on or I’m nervous about, but am willing to do occasionally if a partner is very keen. I’ve mentioned the spanking session with G, and impact play is one of those negotiables. Another is anal. I’ve had anal in the past, but I’ve found it to be unerotic at best, painful at worst. It’s not something that will ever get me to orgasm by itself, and most of the men I’ve slept with have lacked the patience to warm me up sufficiently that it’s